Under Construction

Please bare with me, as Im also trying to heal, keep my house, care for my kids, and stay afloat, etc.

I NEED YOUR HELP. Together, if all of us broken souls come together (man and woman alike) we can start turning this disaster of a problem into something manageable. ONLY if we pool our messages, work together, and unify to some extent, will societal norms and stigmas actually begin to change.

We all have slightly different problems but they also very similar and the real problems are all rooted in the same mud. Divorce, relationships, and mental health.

Please utilize the blog, lets collaborate and lets turn this ship around before its too late for all of society!

My Message

Life for all of us is a radically different path. However for some of us, who have had the displeasure of being abused by a partner (usually a cluster b personality), we find ourselves in a life-or-death challenge just to exist.

We are discarded, left confused, hurt, betrayed, and broken. It happens to both males and females. But when the male is the abused soul, there are virtually no resources to help with mental state, financial aid, legal help, or even the most basic of services, and even the courts will strip him of everything, even though he is the victim.

It’s hard enough to go through a divorce with any sanity, let alone trying to work through it with a narcissistic partner, just to have the legal system further compound things and nobody seems to understand.

Well, I do. I understand first hand. As I reached out for help while I was drowning in a see of abuse, I quickly discovered there is no help for abused men whatsoever. In fact, most systems are designed to favor the mother, even when they claim it’s all in the best interest of the child. Thats not always the case.
It’s time we band together, we are not alone. We are broken, but we don’t have to be beaten! Together we can change laws, write proposals, get professional help, and more importantly, change the stigmas around mental health. It is time that we join forces, united, and find our new purpose! So let’s make tomorrow better for our children, one way or another!

I married my high-school sweetheart, was always loyal, always provided, i was a good man, never faltered. 25 years later she got bored, and settled for nothing less than my total destruction.
She did so at the only time in our entire lives that i so desperately needed my partner to have my back, and be by my side. She chose to lie about everything, her words were all empty, as was her love for me. In 1 day she went from i love you, to I hate you. Then refuses to take any accountability, wants more than her share of our assets, and then pushes the blame on me that I was the manipulative abuser.

This sounds familiar doesn’t it?

Im only 1 bad day away from ending it

Im still just 1 bad day away from returning to my source. I know how you feel. But listen, i found a way through this, a way to stay motivated, a way we can still have purpose!

An abused man?

YES! While this same exact story is more predominant with the female being abused, it does happen in reverse as well. Accept society tells men they have to be emotionless brutes, so we aren’t allowed to hurt.. ya right! We all have brains and emotions, we all bleed red. . We all could benefit from a therapist, and some love!

I lost everything

Listen, i hate to say it like this, but I’m going to be brutally honest. You didn’t loose anything that you thought you had. That person that betrayed you, was not the person you thought they were. Now you see the real person behind the mask. Everything you thought you had, was just the act they wanted you to believe. The person you fell in love with, NEVER EXISTED. Let that sink in a little bit. Im truly sorry that you have to go through this. You are not alone!

How can you help?

More importantly, how can I help you? Right now, across the world, thousands of families just like mine, and yours are going through exactly this same tragic problem. With exactly the same results from our friends, family, and legal systems. That narcissist was so good st making you the bad guy, you’re probably wondering if you are the problem. If you are asking yourself this question, its almost assuredly you are not! Lets help each other!